| What should I do ? Go on vacation , or be with my daughter when she has her baby?

What should I do ? Go on vacation , or be with my daughter when she has her baby?

Ellyn asked:


My husband and I have been planning for a yr to go to Alaska to visit his brother. Then I found out that my daughter is due to have her baby at the same time. This is her 2nd child, I was with her for the first one. I really want to be with her but already committed to go with my husband.
I have talked to her and she said she would understand, my husband said he would understand if I want to be with her.
She is married and lives in a different state.Has alot of support where she is at, but I would feel guilty for not being with her. I also have 2 step-children who will be going with us to Alaska, ages 14 & 16. And they really want me to go to Alaska.

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9 Responses to “What should I do ? Go on vacation , or be with my daughter when she has her baby?”

  1. Missy on April 16th, 2009 7:38 pm

    You can always change your vacation plans, you can’t change your daughter’s due date. As a mom of two, it was just as important to have my mom there for me for the second birth as it was for the first one. There is nothing like a mother’s touch when something chaotic going on like labor and delivery. Best of luck to you, your daughter, and your future grandchild.

  2. aury2879 on April 17th, 2009 12:10 pm

    Ask her if she would prefer you to stay with her and then make your decision.

  3. Tiff on April 21st, 2009 5:27 am

    Tough~~~~ That is your daughter. It is a mother’s responsibilty to be there for thier child when they are in need. I’m sure that she is going to want you there. If you are really dead set on going to Alaska you need to talk to your husband & see if the date can be changed. If not then you should talk to your daughter & see how she feels.

  4. truelyyourss on April 27th, 2009 2:20 am

    its an important ocassion for your daughter, where alska trip can be planned in future too. i suggest be with your daughter and that would stay in her memories for her life time and she too would be best mom for her kids during similar instances..all the best

  5. im loving jess on April 30th, 2009 2:03 am

    be with your daughter if there is one time where mother and daughter can bond the most it will be when one has a baby i would be heart broken if my mother wasnt there for me when i had my baby then about a week or two maybe a month when im more stable then take the vacation but dont disappoint your daughter. plus you know if you go before the baby the whole time your gone you will be thinking about your daughter and that baby so you may ruin your trip if you go early

  6. kooldemand on May 3rd, 2009 6:18 am

    Discuss with your husband to see if the vacation can be shifted for a week or two to enable you be with your daughter for the arrival of your grand child. If your husband insists on the vacation, then you have no choice than to go with him. Explain to your daughter she will understand.

  7. 1103 on May 4th, 2009 2:13 pm

    i think u should go wit ur husband if she has ppl to support her

  8. decarloj2 on May 5th, 2009 3:29 am

    Does your daughter have the father there with her if so than you sould go with your husband if you can’t go to Alaska after she has the baby.

  9. free_angel on May 7th, 2009 8:52 am

    Be with your daughter. She can’t reschedule the birth of her baby whereas you and hubby can reschedule the vacation.